You’ve tried to shake it off and told yourself it’s just a phase.
You booked a holiday. Changed your routine.

Hell, maybe you've even gone to therapy or got a new PT.
But the unsettling feeling lingers.

It shows up in the quiet moments, like when the group chat dies down, the workday ends, or you’re alone on a Sunday night wondering how Monday always seem to come around so quickly.

You keep going. You keep doing.
But it’s costing you more than you’re willing to admit.
Your peace, your clarity, your... spark.

The part of you that used to feel excited— you know, about your actual life, not just the next weekend or your next out-of-office moment— is getting harder to find.

And maybe you haven’t hit rock bottom.

But you’re circling something you can’t quite name…
and you’re smart enough to know it won’t fix itself.

When “high functioning” starts feeling like barely holding it together…

You’re not broken.
You’re just edging on burn out.

You’ve spent years building a life you thought would make you happy,
but now you’re realising that happiness and a peaceful mind isn’t something that can be found on your to-do list.

It’s not about doing more. It’s about finally being honest with yourself about what’s not working.

And if you’re still reading this?
It's a sign you're ready to stop pretending you're fine and start exploring what comes next.

Maybe you're still attached to the illusion that more of what you're already doing will work eventually.

Once you get a new job. Or the next project. Maybe just a new challenge. That next holiday.
Each one gives a hit of excitement, a temporary high that feels like the answer in the moment.

But eventually, you end up feeling more of the same.
But now, just a little more tired, a little more disconnected.

Want a circuit breaker?

Book in for a free 20 minute chat with me. It's a short, potent space to get real and realign yourself.
No pressure. No pitch. Just clarity.

It's perfect the men who don't have time for a full on breakdown 😉

"There is such power in your way to see through muddled minds and bring clarity and guidance. You hold space like a boss.” — Caroline Chaffey

I said “I’m fine” for years, but I was really only fooling myself.

I built a life that looked great from the outside.

Incredible career, the social calendar, the on-point Instagram selfies and holiday pics. But inside? My mind was a war zone: loud, relentless, and full of shame I never dared speak aloud.

Like many of the men I now work with, I got really good at pretending. Pretending I was happy, pretending I had it all together, saying “this is just how life is.”

But when pretending got too exhausting?
I escaped — with booze, with drugs, with meaningless one-night stands, with weekends that came and went too quickly, sometimes even with a new role or work project to chase some level of relief and convince myself my life was going somewhere that would eventually make me happy.

Yet most Monday mornings came with crushing emptiness and wanting more time out. Not just to rest, but for... me.

Eventually, I got tired of pretending.
Tired of managing an image that didn’t reflect what was really going on, tired of edging on burnout, the not-good-enough-ness, the guilt, the “is this all there is?” question I couldn’t shake.

I didn’t hit rock bottom once. I hit it a few times, in different ways.
And with each unraveling, I found a little more of myself underneath.

It wasn’t a holiday, a new job, or a change of city that I needed (though I tried all of them), it was a return. A return to who I was underneath all the mental noise, pressure, and pretending.

Because I do know what it’s like to carry it all: to be capable, giving the illusion that you're fine, while still quietly falling apart.​

To sit with the stuff you don’t say out loud, yet feel deeply when no one’s around.

I slowly, steadily, rebuilt my life from a grounded place, and ended up with a life that feels calm and perfect for me.

These days, my mind is at peace. I am at peace
(most of the time, because hey, I’m still human! 😉)

I fucking love the man I see in the mirror.
I'm not dependent on booze or drugs to have fun or cope. (I'm no saint either, I can still have fun, just hardly choose this anymore!)

I feel aligned with what I get to do, and how I get to do it.
My life isn’t picture perfect, (whose is?) but it’s fucking real and I love it.

I tell the truth about how I feel. I have deep connections. I laugh more. I wake up most days genuinely grateful. Not just when the work is done, but through the journey itself.

And if this sounds similar to what you want for you?
It starts by saying what's real and honest— allowing someone to witness it, and crafting a new way forward based on the truth about how you really feel in this moment.

I’ve spent the last 20 years coaching, training and mentoring humans through some big transformations — in gyms, workshops, studios, and sessions that go way deeper than the original brief.

My toolkit includes behaviour change, performance coaching, and good ol’ fashioned truth-telling.
But what I’m best at?

Helping high-achieving men who can lead teams, close deals, and smash a long boozy lunch on the weekend, yet still can’t silence the noise in their own head.

This isn't from a textbook. It's from lived experience.
From getting it wrong, realising I was chasing goals that weren’t mine, and learning how to create a life that actually feels like mine.

Music was a huge part of my return. I burned it all down once, even walked away from everything that made me feel like me. But I came back — to music, to truth, to what’s real. That’s what this work is about.

I'm not trying to turn your pain into toxic positivity.
Just grounded support, real conversation, and a space where you can finally stop pretending you're fine.

So, why me?

You’ve got two options from here.

Keep going like you are now, hoping the next achievement, weekend getaway, new role or ice bath will finally take the edge off.

Or, you could try something different and have space to speak about what’s really going on and get clear on what to do next.

INTRODUCING: UNMUTE
because holding it all in isn't helping.

Unmute is a free, 20-minute circuit breaker call for high-achieving gay men who feel like they’re spiralling quietly… but aren’t ready (or able) to press pause for long.

This isn’t a coaching session.
It’s not a funnel into a sales pitch.
And it's much more than another item on your to-do list!

It’s a space to take a breath.
To say what’s real.
To stop pretending: even just for 20 minutes.

You’ll experience:

• A chance to drop the mask and say what’s really going on

• Support to clear the mental clutter and feel calm again

• A reminder that you're not broken, you're just mentally exhausted

• A new perspective on what's actually keeping you stuck

• A small but powerful shift that brings you back to yourself

N.B. If you’re looking for someone to fix you, save you, or let you spiral in victim mode — this isn’t it! But if you’re ready for honesty, clarity, and a reset? This is for you.

"I have been working with Adam for about 18 months. I lacked direction and had a single question I couldn’t answer: Adam knew there was a path to follow, one more challenging than I ever expected. He stood with me in my worst moments, openly shared his own life experiences, and went above and beyond to support me. One weekend I was interstate, my world collapsing he made time, talked me through it, and helped me find the courage to keep going. For me, this has been a spiritual journey. I am now living in a place of peace and calm. Working with Adam has been amazing and life changing. I am profoundly grateful."
— Andrew Doery


I just had a life call with Adam… It was raw. I was nearly brought to tears. I’m not an overly emotional person, but I’m so very grateful that a complete stranger was able to genuinely hear me, offer genuine advice about my fears and the things that have always held me back. The meeting was without judgement, and I felt comfortable saying whatever the fuck I felt like saying. By the end, I felt a huge weight was lifted. I’m still wrapping my head around what just happened, but honestly, if you haven’t signed up for Adam’s calls, you’re seriously missing out. I just really felt like my world has been shaken, and the least I can do is tell someone about it. - Dion Eikeji

don't just take my word for it…

I did a lot of work over the years before commencing work with Adam with— grief counselors and psychologists— and I found my work with Adam far more transformational and saw results far quicker. Before working with Adam my headspace was always busy: always overthinking, overanalysing; beating myself up; and repeating and recapping things I’d said or done over and over again. There was very little capacity to feel anything other than being anxious, on edge, exhausted and busy, which produced an almost chronic feeling of overwhelm. On the financial side, I was spending $1k a week on partying, and since starting work with Adam and not feeling the need to escape via alcohol and drugs, I’ve saved in excess of $20k (which has paid for my work with him and more). Through working with Adam, I won my life back. I’ve already started working on a side project outside of my 9–5, I’ve been creative and dancing again, made new amazing human connections and in general, I feel a sense of happiness and love who I am, for all of me. After working with Adam, my headspace is clear and I am hands down the happiest I have ever been in my entire life.
- Karen B (name has been changed for privacy)

Meeting Adam and having him as my coach has helped me massively. The support and understanding from someone I can relate to who has been through similar experiences was a great help. I felt I could trust him and open up and be completely myself. His understanding and support was amazing. With the tools and change of prospective, I feel a lot more confident and feel I’m ready to move forward and let go of things that have been holding me back. So grateful for this experience! - Richard Pringle

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Q: Is this just a sneaky sales call?
A: Nope. Zero pressure, zero pitch. This is a space to be real! It's not a funnel into a funnel. If you want to explore working together afterward, we’ll schedule a separate time for that. If not, you'll still walk away clearer than you came.

Q: Is this going to feel super intense or awkward?
A: Only if pretending everything’s fine feels easier than being human. The call is real, but it’s also relaxed. We might go deep, we might laugh. Probably both.

Q: What if I don’t know where to start?
A: Most people don’t intially. You don’t need to prepare anything. Just bring your real self. I’ll guide you from there.

Q: What happens after the call?
A: You’ll know what’s next — whether it’s continuing the work together or simply taking the next right step for you. Either way, you’ll leave lighter.

Q: Do I need to be gay to book this?
A: Nope. This space is built with high-achieving gay men in mind, but if you resonate with the words and you’re craving honesty, clarity and a reset — you're welcome here.

Q: I’m not used to asking for help. Is that a problem?
A: Nope. That’s actually a really good reason to book the call. Let this be your first step toward support that doesn’t feel like weakness — but power.

OK, so the real tea? They’re not exactly frequently asked…
But they should be! Especially if you’re wondering whether this is for you.

“I’m fine”
might sound convincing...

Don’t wait for the breakdown.
Take the breakthrough.
20 minutes. No pressure.
Just you, me, and the truth.

but it’s a terrible mental health plan!