The Highly Capable (Who Knows What They Want, But Hasn't Made The Leap)

Deep down, you know what you want.

Maybe not every detail— maybe it’s still a little blurry around the edges— but you know the direction. You’ve tapped into the thing that makes your eyes light up, that brings you fully into the moment. The thing that somehow feels like you, even though you can’t quite explain it.

Yes. That.

But still… you’re not doing it. At least, not as much as you’d like to be.

Here’s the thing: you’re fucking good at what you currently do for work. Really good. You’re capable, skilled, reliable, respected—and you’ve created a life that works. More than works, actually. It allows you to enjoy the lifestyle you’ve worked so hard to build. You’ve got great friends, and you can go on overseas holidays every year. You take weekends away, you have beautiful clothes, a nice car…

But underneath it all, there’s this quiet ache: a gap between what you’re doing now— and what you really want to be doing with your life. And you’ve felt the pull—more than once. You’ve fantasized about the alternate path. You’ve imagined yourself lost in the work that truly matters to you. The space, the expression, the contribution that feels more aligned, more alive, more deeply you.

But you haven’t made the leap. It's not because you’re confused and it's not because you’re not ready. It's because the thing you really want is also the thing that carries the most risk.

And that makes it scarier because it means something. It’s so deeply tuned into your heart and soul that the idea of failing at that feels heavier than failing at anything else. But beyond the fear of failure, there’s something else.
Going all-in on the thing you love feels like it might cost you the life you’ve built—the one that looks good and offers a certain kind of safety. So you hesitate. You stay. Because this life? It’s not bad. It’s fine. It’s comfortable. It works.

But let’s be honest: it’s not what you really want to be doing with your life… is it?

Every time you think about turning toward what you really want, you freeze. Or you find a reason why now isn’t the right time. Why you need to know more. Plan better. Wait just a little longer. Pick any number of excuses— you already know what yours are.

It’s not that you doubt the vision either— you just doubt whether you can hold it. Perhaps you've wondered if you're even allowed to want it. Perhaps you've questioned yourself...

"If it doesn’t work out, will I still be okay?"

All of that? Completely normal.

"What if I leap and it fails?"
"What if I lose what I’ve built?"
"What if I’m not good enough to do the thing I love?"
"What if I lose it all?"

That voice is persuasive. It’s powerful. And it’s probably been running the show for a while now. So you stay in the life that looks good from the outside, and convince yourself you’re “figuring it out.” You’ve even got a clever way of explaining your hesitation to friends—maybe you dress it up as strategy, or just avoid the conversation altogether.

But deep down? You fucking knowwwww. And pretending otherwise is getting exhausting.

That knowing? That is the voice— the whisper— of your soul. It’s calling you forward. Into what you truly want. Into the space where your gifts live. Into the life where your magic doesn’t have to be hidden anymore.

And the longer you delay it, the heavier it feels.

What This Moment Is Asking Of You

This moment is not asking you to blow up your life, nor is it asking you to quit your job tomorrow and post your big announcement on social media. (I did that— 0/10. Do not recommend!) 🤪 It simply asking you to listen and trust that thing deep within that is calling you forward.

Because it's calling you forward for a reason.

This life you've created looks good on the outside: it has enough of what you want, and allows you to hide behind the facade of beautiful life on Social Media. But inside it feels differently.

I bet that when you find yourself alone, you can't sit still. You're restless. On edge. You probably drink more than you would like, or at the very least you have some vice or coping mechanism that has become a problem for you.

You're having this experience because your soul isn't ever going to stop knocking. In fact, your soul never stops offering it's guidance, much like how a little kid might beg his Dad for an ice-cream! Furthermore, that restless feeling amplifies when you ignore the message your soul is ushering you to receive.

Because of that, this feeling has manifested its way into your thoughts, so now even your mental state isn't as clear as you would like it to be. You can't slow your mind down sometimes. And so the cycle continues.

What's required is not to find new ways to cope, nor is it to jump into a new role, change companies, find a new project and/or challenge, or even move cities. Yes, these things may be perfect for you. But the core truth of the matter? You just need to start allowing yourself to play again. To play in what you truly love. The expansion can come later once you're back in alignment with what matters to you.

This doesn't require a five-year plan, a business model, or a goal-oriented to-do list. You don’t even need to feel confident before you start. You just need to do the fucking thing! (And I know that you know this!) 😆

Do this so you can let yourself remember what it feels like to be in something that excites you! Not because of what you get from it. But what you give. Who you are being in those moments. That's when you reconnect with your true joy, with flow, with aliveness—without the pressure of needing to prove anything or turn it into something that pays your bills.

Because the truth is, the longer you stay disconnected from what you love, the more life starts to feel flat. Numb. Like you’re going through the motions of something that’s no longer meant for you.

And you don’t have to live like that, unless of course that's what you really want? But we both know it's not.

Your Focus Point: Creative Expression without Outcome

This is the season to give that part of you a voice again—the one that dreams, that creates, that doesn’t ask permission. You’re so used to performing, producing, delivering… but this isn’t about performing— this is about giving space to the things that matter to you, for no other reason than the fact that they matter to you.

Your Invitation (Not A Prescription)

These are not rules, and they are not homework. Think of them like doors to walk through, if and when you feel ready. This general guidance here is to help you refocus on what you love, and give that some air-time in your life again.

If I was in your position, this is what I would do.

• Time Out. Take a weekend for yourself. If you've got a week up your sleeve— do that. Not to catch up with others, not to reset, not to travel, but to explore. To explore you and your gift that you're quietly sitting on. This time is about giving yourself space to play what lights you up, even if only for a few hours. During this time I would complete what's listed below.

• Nature. Spend an hour (or more!) in nature each day. That could be a local park, or a drive out to a national park so you can either walk, run, swim or sit, and be connected with Mother Earth. This will help your body breathe and your nervous system settle. Do this so you're out of your mind and into your body, so you're not trying to think your way forward. This will help you flow.

• Passion. Start doing what you love again— in anyway that you would like. Write? Paint? Build? Play? Design? Draw? Dance? Express? This is about playing with possibility, not productivity.

• Create. Create for no other reason that creation sake. I would set aside 3-5 hours each day to work on something and turn your phone off so you can focus. It doesn't need to be perfect, and it doesn't even need to be finished. In fact, I would start with a new project, a new idea each day. Here, your focus is not to create a final product. That's coming later. Right now, it's simply to be in flow again and build some momentum doing what you love. This will be a powerful reminder of how much you love it.

• Acceptance. Just notice how it feels when you're in it. And when you're done, walk away. No review. No pulling apart what you've created and seeing what you could fix. Look at it and see the magic, look for the parts that you really love, and celebrate yourself for even doing that.
  

Remember: this next chapter is not about outcomes— it’s about returning to the part of you that expresses yourself naturally through this chosen form. It's about joy, excitement, passion, play.

Give yourself permission to experience that.

Before You Go...

You really don’t need help to figure this out. I know that you are more than capable of navigating your own inner world. The steps listed above will assist you getting back into the flow of what's important, and it's really a rinse and repeat system you can use over, and over again.

That said, when we embark on journeys that come from the heart and soul, we often encounter some challenges, a series of proverbial roadblocks. They can feel like mountains when you're in it, and sometimes it helps having someone there who has navigated through those, and can guide you through them too.

If that's the case, I'd love to hold that space for you—to help you reflect what’s true, soften the noise, and help you take the courageous steps into what’s next—I'm here for that.

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No pressure whatsoever. Your life, your decision.

Just know that everything I shared above? I write about it because I lived through it.
These words you're reading now? That's part of my breakthrough. This blog? The courage to share my heart and soul, to inspire and encourage others to do the same?

Yes, that. This is my play, my calling, my passion in full flight. Well, part of it anyway! It's not big and grandiose. Yet. But it is moving. Growing. Expanding. And holy shit it's exciting to be in a space where this is what I get to do every single day.

With so much love,
Adam x