The Passionate (Who Already Knows What They Want To Do With Their Life, But Holds Back)

It's time you and I get real. Real and honest.

Deep down, you already know what this is about. This is not a call to 'find your purpose' or discover your calling, because you’ve already found it. What's more, you've already felt it, experienced it.

Certainly not in its final form, but there's something in your life that makes you come alive in ways you couldn't possible express. It’s the thing that opens your heart and pulls time out from under you. The thing that makes you forget about the noise of the world. The thing that feels like home when you’re doing it.

It might be a creative gift. A business idea. A form of movement, music, art, writing. It might be the way you guide, teach, lead, build, heal, nurture. Whatever it is- you know. You’ve known for a while now, and yet…

You’re still holding back.

You’re not even denying that it matters. Everyone else can see how much you love it. You’re just keeping it tucked away. Safe. Protected. And I get it, because when something matters this much? It can be fucking terrifying to share it with the world.

It's not that the sharing of this with the world scares you. It's the fact that this is so deeply connected to who you are that sharing this with the world feels vulnerable. It's like exposing your heart and putting it on display for everyone to take a look at.

There are the lovers who see you, your heart and this gift and celebrate you, support you and raise you up. And then there are the haters, who judge, condemn, and label your expression with words that echo deep into the very core of your being, penetrating your deepest fears and forcing them to the surface so they can be felt.

And that? Is what you've scared of feeling.

These 'haters' are often people you don't even know, but their words are like a personal attack on who you are, so you've shrunk yourself down to fit so you can avoid their attacks.

Occasionally, this comes from people you know and love, people who 'don't want to see you get hurt' or say "I'm only watching out for you." Their intention is good, but it comes from a place of fear, for they too have denied their own gifts and are trying to protect you from the hurt they went through.

But more than all of that? Those 'haters'... Live inside your own mind.

It's the voice of comparison, who measures your art or expression against someone else's.
It's the voice of judgement who follows suit declaring that you're not as good as they are.
It's the voice of doubt who then leads you to believe that you're not good enough.
And it's the voice of fear who encourages you to hold back because (apparently!) you'll never be good enough.

Of course, nobody really knows about all of this. But you do. And it's easy to spot. It's in what you say to yourself and others. You tell yourself the timing isn’t right, or that you need more clarity, or that when you have more money, more space, more certainty- then you’ll go for it.

But let's be honest. This isn’t a strategy that's helping you. It's a strategy that's keeping you happy enough, whilst you continue to dabble in the thing that you truly love.

You're scared of going all-in to this and it not working out, so instead you dream and do what's necessary to keep the spark alive, but not nearly enough to turn this into the flame. Meanwhile the job that you're doing to support you whilst you supposedly build your dream has become your main thing. And that’s the hardest part.

Because you already know how you feel when you're in your element. You fantasize about this being the thing that you get to do each and every day. You feel deep within your body. You soften. You come alive. Something opens. You become different. Like somehow, you become more you.

But then, the moment passes and you force yourself back to 'reality'. You close the notebook, you put down the brush, shut the laptop, file the idea away for later... Whatever that is for you. Back to being responsible. Back to what’s working. Back to the safe, known rhythm of “good enough.”

But how long do you want to keep doing that?

How long are you willing to keep your heart on a leash?

How many more moments do you need before you let yourself say:
"This is real. This matters. I’m going to give this the time and attention it deserves. And I'll either make this happen, or die trying. Either way, it will be worth it."

You don’t have to blow up your life.

You don’t even need to go all in overnight, but you do need to stop pretending this is a small thing.

Because you fucking know it’s not. It’s a sacred thing. It's a real thing. It’s the thing that brings you home.
The thing that opens your soul. The thing that whispers- this is who you really are.

Your Focus Point: Do What You Love, Do It Often.

I really only have one piece of advice for you, based on where you are now.

Create a sacred hour each week to do what you love. Or one night every week. But ideally? Every day, if you can. Consistency is your friend. And, if you miss a day? Don't beat yourself up, just love yourself back into action.

That's it, for now. Nothing more.

This isn't for output, nor is it for performance. It's not to make it “something.” or even get a finished product. This is just for you to be in it. With it. With you.

To move your hands, to fan the spark into a flame. To say yes to the part of you that already knows what you came here to do. Because you accepting second best is you selling yourself short. And deep down you know this.

Because the longer you keep it hidden, the more restless you’ll feel. And you can keep saying it’s “not the right time.” but your soul isn’t going to stop knocking to remind you of your potential. It's never going to stop reminding you of what's deep within you that's ready to be watered, loved, cared for, nurtured.

Sure you can try to silence it with things like booze and drugs and food and any number of distractions: yet another work project; a new role; a new city; even a 'loving' relationship.

But all you'll ever do is push it down further, creating an ache that silently tears you apart year after year, whilst you put on the mask of "I'm fine!" creating success in any other way other than the way that truly matters to you.

Before You Go...

Please know that there is nothing wrong with you. You’re not lazy. You’re not indecisive. You’re not flaky.
You’re just standing at the edge of your own becoming- and you’re fucking scared. And perhaps even scared to admit that.

And that's perfectly okay. Normal, even. You’re allowed to be scared.

But, you’re also allowed to leap. Allowed to want more. Allowed to take yourself seriously. Allowed to say, “This thing I love- it matters. It matters enough for me to make space for it.” Not in the future. But now. Today. This season.

Because a passion held too long without expression doesn’t disappear- it calcifies. It gets heavy and becomes grief, and you were never meant to grieve your own joy.

You Don't Have To Do This Alone

If any of this speaks to you... If you feel yourself quietly nodding along... I want you to know you’re not alone in this. This is tender work. And sometimes, we all need a little help to clear the noise and come back to what’s true.

I offer The Breakthrough Session. It's a one-off, heart-centered space to help you reconnect with your creative self, name what matters, and get out of the cycle of almost.

No pressure. No formulas. Just truth, support, and a space to finally say yes to your gifts.

It's with someone who gets it. With someone who has experienced the depths of everything written above and knows what it's like to have a calling that is equally exhilarating as it is frightening. It's with someone who has turned doubt into faith, delay into determination, and who has, in fact, put his heart on display for the world to see.

You're seeing it in these words. This expression, this topic, this way of bringing myself into the world. Albeit it's but one avenue, but it matters deeply to me. And that is what matters.

So if you want support? If this post hit home more than anything else has before? I'd love to help you reignite this spark and get you moving again. Because you matter. What you share with the world matters. The way you share this gift with the world matters.

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You're not here to follow someone else's rules. You're here to trust and follow your own. And I'm the guy that will help you do exactly that.

With love,
Adam x