Win Back Your Weekend

I wrote this book back in 2018, when I was clawing my way out of regular weekend benders.

And before we go any further, let me be crystal clear: this isn’t me climbing onto some high horse to tell you to get sober, nor is it me wagging a finger saying "Girrrrrrrrrl! You need to slow down and stop partying!"

This is me naming the very real predicament that so many gay men find themselves in. Picture it: Saturday pre-drinks, dinner out with friends, another bar for a cheeky round, then a dance floor, then somehow stumbling home late Sunday afternoon… only to face work on Monday with that gut-punch of guilt for doing it all over again.

And here’s the truth: that life? Fuck, it is fun. No denying it.
But like, what happens when it starts to cost you your mental health? When the Monday morning promise of “having a quiet one next weekend” gets broken by Friday night? What about when there’s a part of you that genuinely wants to slow down, but somehow the very next weekend you're off your face, again? When your come downs wreck your training schedule, your Uber Eats bill could feed a family of four, and you’ve lost three evenings to another Netflix spiral you didn’t even want? Not really anyway.

What about when you need a whole weekend to recover from your weekend?

Babes, that’s when it stops being 'just fun'.
That’s when you’ve got to ask: what if it’s masking something? What if those benders are less about living your life and more about numbing it?

Ouch. And yes, I’ve been there. I’ve done it.
I’ve dropped so much ecstasy I stopped counting after 10 pills.
I’ve snorted enough coke that my nostrils staged a walkout.
I’ve overdosed on GHB more than once, and signed myself up for weekend-long sex benders of PnP that left me in a week-long hole.
I’ve drunk myself into blackout so many times I lost track of what I’d said, done, or agreed to.

And that’s only the highlight reel.

So did I have fun? Absolutely. Do I regret it? Not really. (Well… maybe a few questionable men once the G goggles wore off 🤣).
But the real issue? I wanted to change, and I couldn’t.

Sure, I’d take a break here and there: a couple of weeks, maybe even a month if I was really pushing it. But somehow, without fail, I’d find myself back on the same cycle. The breaks gave me breathing room, but they didn’t solve the problem. So after a decade of chasing weekends, chasing highs, chasing boys, I had to get radically honest with myself.

The truth: my so-called “just having fun” was actually dependence. Drugs and alcohol weren’t the villains; they were crutches I was leaning on to cope with a life I didn’t want to fully face.

And that’s when it clicked for me: I had to address the parts of my life I'd been ignoring. So I did. It took my years, but it worked. And now? I don’t call myself sober, I call myself sane. Partying isn’t off the table; it’s just not the center of my life anymore. That shift changed everything.

Because the substances themselves aren’t inherently bad. But when you’re stuck in the same exhausting cycle, layering guilt and shame on top of the hangovers and comedowns? That’s when it’s worth asking what’s really underneath it all.

And that’s exactly what this book is here to help you figure out.

In this book you will learn the same steps I used to make lasting changes:

1. It’s not about the substances; it’s about the what's underneath. Drugs and booze weren’t the problem; they were the cover-up.

2. Finding the root, not just the hangover. Focusing on the life patterns and emotional blind spots that fuel the cycle.

3. What my weekends were actually screaming at me. Spoiler: it wasn’t “have another shot,” it was “look at your life.”

4. Simple, practical shifts that finally broke the loop. Tools that actually worked for me in the real world, not just in theory.

5. How to find joy on my own terms. Party if I want, stay home if I want; the difference is, I’m the one choosing.

**“I wrote this book to help gay men break free from the cycle of drug- and alcohol-fueled weekends, get their mental health back on track, and finally deal with the things they’ve been ignoring for months… or even years. This is for you if you’re partying more than you want to, can’t seem to stop, but deep down, you really want to slow down and take back control.”**

Grab your copy now. $20.
It may just change your life.

Adam xx