Why I Don’t Work Hard Anymore (And Why You Shouldn’t Either)
Feeling burnt out, disconnected, or like you're constantly “pushing through”? This blog unpacks why ditching the hustle mindset changed everything for me, and how working easy (not hard) brought clarity, energy, and a whole lot more peace. If you're a high-achieving gay man chasing success but quietly falling apart inside, this is your wake-up call.
PERSONAL
Adam Cox
8/7/20252 min read


I don’t “work hard.”
I work easy.
And this might sound like a play on words, but hear me out for a moment.
Many of us have been taught to work hard like it’s a badge of honour.
But those that champion this, more often than not, are either edging on burnout, drinking more than they’d like, sitting with anxiety they’d rather not have, or in a position worrying about the future and ruminating over the past.
I rarely do this.
I know, this really does feel like a superhuman trait.
But I want to share this:
My work is EASY because it fucking flows, it pours out of me. I am so lit up by what I get to do and how I get to do it that my 'work' is legitimately my favourite thing in the world.
And... I took a few days off last week because I felt I needed a moment. And I’m back with oh so much fire.
I didn’t spend it watching Netflix, scrolling social media, or ticking off odd jobs. I didn’t go out for drinks and wake up with a hangover and count that as ‘time off’.
No. I actually rested.
Like, properly.
I gave my body and mind the stillness and space it needed.
And here’s the thing, I don’t just allow myself to do that…
I feel completely at home doing that.
Because when my mind or body needs a pause, I honour it, so when I come back, I come back clear, energised, and ON FIRE! 🔥
I don't need a holiday to recover from my holiday.
Or need more time off, even wish for it.
No sir. I rest and rest well, and come back excited for everything I get to work on.
Here’s the point…
If your head is a mess,
If you’re “pushing through,”
If you’re counting down the days until your next holiday just to finally have a pressure release—
It's likely you're operating with an ineffective approach to life. That is, if what you want is a calm mind and a body at peace.
And my magic?
Is helping men change their approach to life so they can actually be happy with themselves and at peace in their mind, whilst still being able to “work hard” on what truly matters to them and sustain the lifestyle they desire.
If you want this for you?
Book in for 20 minutes with me.
I call it The Quick Unravel (perfect name, I know—right?) 😉
It’s made for those who don’t have time for a full breakdown, but definitely want to get some mental clarity and offload whatever’s weighing them down.
Click below to book.
Love you, just in that “I love you enough to tell you the f*cking truth” kind of way.
Adam x