Your Life Looks Good. So Why Are You Falling Apart Inside? Here’s What You Haven’t Been Told.

You’ve Made It This Far...

And that already says something. It says there is a part of you (maybe a quiet whisper, maybe a full-body YES) that's waking up to the idea that there’s more. Not just more to achieve or to get... more to who you are, what you actually want, and what you're here to create. More to give, more to share with the world. More of you.

If you've read this far in the series and have been nodding along in agreement quietly, whilst secretly thinking "OMG that's me!" the next chapter of your life isn’t about burning your life down or quitting your job overnight, but it is about finally listening to what’s been whispering inside you for years. And maybe, just maybe, finally being honest about the life you’ve built.

It's not wrong.

It just doesn't feel the way you thought it would. More than that, you don't feel how you thought you would at this stage of your life. And that's OK too. I've been through that too.


My Personal Experience

There was a time in my life where everything looked right. I had great friends, two growing careers that I 'loved', a beautiful home to live in, overseas holidays each year, weekends away, long lunches, a great wardrobe, nights out with friends. I was reasonably fit and healthy, and was in a loving relationship. To anyone looking from the outside? I had it sorted and was well on my way up. But behind all that movement, there was a deeper truth I wasn’t ready to admit.

I was unhappy.

My head was a mess, rebounding between moments of pure joy and a crumbling that involved me questioning myself, my entire life, and my existence. Drinking, eating, taking drugs- anything I could do to cope with how I felt and silence my racing thoughts, even for just a moment.

I couldn’t sit still.

Silence made me restless.

I was always doing, always plugged in, always needing something to occupy me: my phone, a book, a work project, a glass of wine, another TV show, another social event... always on the go. More than that, I saw no sense in sitting still. Sleep when you're dead, right? Yes, and... the thing I craved more than anything was inner peace; for the thoughts in my head to slow down, to not worry, to not ruminate on what I'd done (or not done!) in the past. To not be so concerned with getting it right or saying the right thing.

Truth be told, I held a secret and desperate desire for true rest and relaxation, but arriving at that space never happened because being alone with myself was uncomfortable. Scary, even.

Just me and my thoughts? Terrifying. The problem was (as I would later discover!) that the rest and relaxation I desired was on the other side of that space and time where I could sit still and just be.

Eventually I got to see that the lifestyle I had built wasn't wrong. But it was propping me up. It was a distraction dressed as a dream, and eventually, I had to get honest about it. I was quietly falling apart, and, despite outward projections, I wasn’t really in love with the life I'd built. I felt trapped. Like somehow I was forced to keep going, to keep pushing through, even when every part of my body was screaming out to stop.

It wasn't one big breakdown, but lots of little moments that started to wake me up to the fact that the way I was living wasn't actually making me happy.

And if you’re still reading this, I have a feeling it might be waking you up, too.


Waking Up

Because the realisation that there might be a problem doesn’t always arrive with a bang. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet moment at the end of the day. Or that Monday morning feeling of knowing you have to push through for another five days before you get to rest. You're still showing up, doing the work, ticking the boxes. You might still have people telling you how good you are and how good your life looks. And maybe it does look good. But something’s off, and it’s been off for a while. And that's what I'm here inviting you to explore.

Throughout this series, I've spoken about the four kinds of people who are often the last ones to admit they’re unhappy and out of alignment, largely because they’re so good at keeping it all together.

✨ The High Achiever, who’s checked every box but still feels strangely disconnected.
✨ The Highly Capable, who knows what they want, but hasn’t made the leap.
✨ The Climber, who’s already planning their exit—even if they don’t say it out loud.
✨ The Passionate, who knows exactly what lights them up… and is still holding back.

Maybe you saw yourself in just one, or maybe you saw yourself in all of them. There really isn't a right or wrong place to be. But, there is a truth here. Beneath the type, beneath the story, beneath the masks you wear to keep everything moving...

You already know this.
You’ve already felt this.

The truth is, something inside you wants more.

More ease.
More truth.
More expression.
More peace.
More...

YOU.

This next bit is important for you to understand.

There is nothing wrong with you for not coming to this realisation sooner, for where you are right now is perfect. Every decision you've made is also perfect. You haven't made a wrong turn anywhere. You're exactly where you're meant to be, mostly because you can't be anywhere else.

You’re also not broken. Even if at times you feel you are, even when every piece of evidence leads you to believe there is something inherently wrong with you. I guarantee that you are not. I believed this about myself for over a decade, and I will say that when the moment lands for you (and it will) you will see how this could have never ever been true.

You might feel a little lost. And that's OK. It's OK because you're now aware of the fundamental flaw with your approach to life.

You built a life that was predominantly focused on success, not one that was designed to make you happy.

And you’ve gotten really good at keeping how you really feel hidden. The mask of "I'm fine!" when deep down you're feeling something is way off. The "I'm good! Busy, but good! Need a holiday though." is just another mask you wear to convince others that you're not secretly falling apart on the inside. You're not alone either. This is a normal experience for people to have.

It's become normal. But it's not natural. You're not supposed to feel like that. And so you (and everyone else) search for ways to cope.

Maybe it's drinking, or binge-eating, or perhaps a need for external validation through social media likes. Maybe it's a chase for the next role or promotion. Maybe it's just a need to always be busy. Whatever your vice or coping mechanism is... it's only covering up how you really feel.

N.B. There is nothing wrong with any of these things. But if your life falls apart without them? If you can't peel yourself away even though you want to? Let it be known that your approach to life is being supported by something that is simultaneously hurting you whilst it's helping you.

And... The longer you delay addressing how you really feel inside, the heavier it gets. The more you deny it exists, the more you drift from the person you’re meant to become. And eventually? It shows up in all kinds of ways: fatigue, resentment, anxiety, emotional disconnection, even burnout.

Not because you’ve failed.

But because your soul wasn’t designed to sacrifice your happiness for success.

Your purpose for being alive wasn't just for a life that looks good from the outside. It was for you to experience joy, aliveness, fulfillment. Not just when the work is done, but whilst you're in the work. Whilst you're in life.

Joy and excitement and play and passion aren't something to be earned, they're the foundation pieces for operating in life.

And you?

You've been putting that as an end goal for just a little too long, and you're quietly suffering.

So here’s your gentle invitation:

You don't need to blow up your life, and you don't need to fix yourself. You don't need to do something dramatic like quit your job and take off on a world trip ala "Eat Pray Love" style. (As enticing as that might be!)

No, the first invitation is just to listen to what your mind, body and soul has been trying to tell you all along. To come home to yourself. To let the part of you that is aching actually matter.

Because the part of you that’s been whispering for change?

It’s not going anywhere.

It’s not a phase, it's not something that can be quietened with another bottle of wine, another one-night stand, or overseas holiday or a prescription. It can be silenced momentarily, yes. But not forever.

That ache inside is the real you asking to finally be heard.

It's you calling out to stop the charade of pretending you're happy, because it knows your struggles and knows your potential, and can see a way forward in your life that doesn't involve you sacrificing yourself just to get it.

It just so happens that you've stumbled across these words. I've written these words because I get it. Like, I really get it. Everything that has been shared has been touched, experienced and even suffered through personally. And, it just so happens that I'm excellent at supporting people through this journey.

I'm not someone who has read a few books, memorised a few things and got a certificate. No, I've personally navigated my way out of all these struggles AND read all the books. I've also got over 19 years of experience as a trainer/coach/mentor. I personally don't care much for fancy pieces of paper. I have the lived experience. The guide who walks the walk, not just talks the talk. The guy who knows exactly what you're going through in your mind, the quiet ache that has been deep within for longer than you can remember...

So...

If you’d like support with how you're feeling, how you're thinking and finding a pathway forward that isn't just more of a chase? If you’re ready to stop sitting in the ache and actually begin moving forward?

Join me for a Breakthrough Session.

It’s a one-off, soul-deep conversation to help you clear the noise, name what matters, and take the next step that actually aligns with who you are.

There’s no pressure, no formula, and no hidden agenda.

Just you. Me. Truth.

And the space to honour exactly how you're feeling now, and the kind of life you really want to build.

The one that feels as good as it looks.

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Yes, there are options to continue working together from this point if you so desire. But you've gotta take the first step. You don’t need to keep hiding nor do you need to wait until everything’s perfect.

You just need one moment of courage.

One yes to yourself.

I’d be honoured to walk that first step with you.

With love,
Adam x